Psychoanalytic Training: A Beginning
A Love Affair, it was -- with all the fire and much of the smoke that goes into relationships. There is a certain built-in excitement in the promise of psychoanalytic training ... to have one's fingers on the pulse of all that is human. And, the Candidates in my cohort, indeed, were either pissed-off or mesmerized by our early classes. Some left training pretty quickly. Two were quite disturbed by Harold but stayed nonetheless.
Classical Freudian Analysis had changed by the early 1970's but, still, a sexual theory of neurotic disturbance was -- if not sufficient to understand all -- a necessary component to most any new theorist's views of what the Ego Psychologists were thinking of as a General Psychology. As early as 1912, Jung had suggested a theory that was not locked into what Freud suggested to him was a bulwark to the external forces that were seeking to discredit the young Science ... or was it an Art. Jung, in spite of the valiant efforts by Emma Jung to patch things up between the two still-young warriors -- left and formed his own group. The generations working at mid-Century, however, were adding a great deal. Even Anna Freud -- and a bit before Papa's death -- had introduced additions (may I call them) to Sigmund's theories but most typically without subtracting from them. By the time I began training, there was a considerable increase in those who no longer believed that neurotic behavior could all be explained by conflicts surrounding what the founders saw as the two principle human drives ... Sex and Aggression ... Eros and Thanatos or Destrudo. Perhaps, the most compelling change involved the recognition that there was a drive towards connection.
One might extract such a theory of connection from Freud and, indeed, Freud had mentioned en
passant that there was a possibility that the attachment drive was still more basic -- earlier in development -- than the sexual one that brings folk close in order to procreate ... to preserve the species. But others were beginning to see the wish to connect as built-in on almost a cellular level. Those who were born without a profound drive to stay-near to Mama -- we may presume -- wandered off from home and were eaten by Tigers and Bears -- thus, being drummed out of the genetic pool. We who remain feel a degree of security much of the time in being close to a warm and maternal other and a beneficent protector ... a traditional paternal figure. Freud had been the first, perhaps, to tie the working out of these two connections to emotional health and to a sense of right and wrong.
Perhaps, Freud's most powerful contribution was the manner in which he tied the development of health inside a well personality with the battle to deal with a kind of narcissistic need not to allow Mom and Dad to relate except through the child, hm- or herself. The child sees the parents copulating and fights against this awareness. The little boy wants to lay with Mama and kill Papa. Freud called this the Primal Scene and saw the complex that grew up around these troubles the (positive) Oedipus complex. It would be somewhat more than 5 years in my future but I, like Jung, would come to question the sexual center of this complex. Unlike Jung, I would suggest a model that had to do with any single child's narcissistic wound in the recognition that others have relationships that exist independent of him or her ... a wound that has less to do with the sexual nature of the parents' relationship that with the very fact that they had complex lives that existed independently of the child.
Such perfidies begin easily enough; they die hard, if ever!
passant that there was a possibility that the attachment drive was still more basic -- earlier in development -- than the sexual one that brings folk close in order to procreate ... to preserve the species. But others were beginning to see the wish to connect as built-in on almost a cellular level. Those who were born without a profound drive to stay-near to Mama -- we may presume -- wandered off from home and were eaten by Tigers and Bears -- thus, being drummed out of the genetic pool. We who remain feel a degree of security much of the time in being close to a warm and maternal other and a beneficent protector ... a traditional paternal figure. Freud had been the first, perhaps, to tie the working out of these two connections to emotional health and to a sense of right and wrong.
Perhaps, Freud's most powerful contribution was the manner in which he tied the development of health inside a well personality with the battle to deal with a kind of narcissistic need not to allow Mom and Dad to relate except through the child, hm- or herself. The child sees the parents copulating and fights against this awareness. The little boy wants to lay with Mama and kill Papa. Freud called this the Primal Scene and saw the complex that grew up around these troubles the (positive) Oedipus complex. It would be somewhat more than 5 years in my future but I, like Jung, would come to question the sexual center of this complex. Unlike Jung, I would suggest a model that had to do with any single child's narcissistic wound in the recognition that others have relationships that exist independent of him or her ... a wound that has less to do with the sexual nature of the parents' relationship that with the very fact that they had complex lives that existed independently of the child.
Such perfidies begin easily enough; they die hard, if ever!